How to have a relationship with a Russian girl or man?

Photographer: Elena Krylosova

NOTE: This post of the blog doesn’t pretend to be a manual in how to lay down with a Russian. With all the fuzz in the media because the AFA did a copy & paste (without our consent) of this article, we want to put some things in the desk and explain the reasons why it is written this way.

In the 2015’s when we created this blog, we started to write about the culture and how to understand Russians, many people started to write questions about “how we bought our Russian girl”, at least was the feeling when we read them. It is despicable, but exist a big industry who portrait russian people like in need to go out of their misery (something false), and practically they sell the idea that with money you can buy the model of your dreams.

We decided to write something, but with sarcasm. We wrote this post making fun of this people, if you read carefully we call them stupid, idiots and so on, of course they don’t know how to have a normal relationship. But not only that, it happens with men and women. In general terms anybody with common sense know that this is the normal behavior with somebody, but not always is the case, many people outside think that they can and it is their right to own people.

We ask some questions, why the AFA only copy this article? This is not Russian culture at all, exist post where we wrote interesting things about the culture. What happen with the people who check the papers before printing them? What happen with the person or people who check the content before giving material to the media?

The worst thing is, why we have to explain all of this? Why the reporters didn’t get the idea of the post? This is obvious for people who “know how to read between lines”.

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Since a couple of years, many people asked me the same question, how to have a relationship with a Russian girl or man?

Usually many people believe that because they are from other country, they must be better…, in some way…

I personally met good people and bad people, some people will try to take advantage of you and others will try to help you; like any other country or even at your own country.

Maybe we can discuss about such things in other post, but meantime I can tell you a couple of things.

I wrote some tips in the past post (Some things I learned from my Russian girlfriend).

First of all, the relationship will start until you meet her for real, so, if you met someone at the internet be ready to meet her in the future.

First the advices for women who want to meet a Russian man, I asked to my Russian friends what they like in a woman, so they told me two things:

  1. If you are pretty and know how to look good, they will try to know you.
  2. If you are interesting, the same…
  3. If you are pretty and interesting, is much better.

That’s all. What!? You expected more!? They are man!!!! What you were expecting??

For men, the things are a little more complicated. So let me tell you, if you don’t know how to talk with a woman in your own country, things can be more difficult with a Russian girl, because you will have the barrier of the language and culture. But anyway, you can always meet someone without knowing a lot of the language, and maybe you can learn better Russian language with your new girlfriend.

I will not discuss about how to meet someone online, if you are interested (man or woman) or if you are Russian girl or boy and want to know what things you need to pay attention in a relationship abroad, maybe you can tell me and we can discuss in other post (yes, exist important issues on this topic).

I thinks this advices apply to any kind of girl around the world, so what you need to do in order to have a chance with a Russian girl?

  1. Russian girls, like any other girl pay a lot of attention if you are clean, smell good and are well dressed. The first impression is very important for them, take care of your own image.
  2. Russian girls don’t like to be seen as objects. Many men, because Russian women are pretty, only want to take them to the bed. Maybe she wants to have sex with you, but they are human beings that want to feel important and unique. The advice is to treat the woman in front of you as a valuable woman, with her own ideas and desires. Pay attention to her values and personality. Avoid to ask stupid questions about sex. For Russians sex is a private thing and you will not discuss such things in the first time. (Maybe you don’t believe me, but I know some guys that actually do such questions).
  3. Russian woman hate boring men. If you don’t have topics to talk to her, if you are only thinking what to tell next, then you are not enjoying the moment so you will be disconnected from her. Remember, if you are a foreigner you can tell her about your country, how you live, and the nicest things you see in her country. Remember is very important that you invite her to participate in the chat with your own topics. Try to talk to her in a very honest way.
  4. Avoid to be negative. Women avoid to be with people who only sees bad things, in life, in relationships, and work.
  5. Don’t make the typical questions, be original, usually they like to know about you too, so first of all give info about you. Remember that many of them will not know about your place, so you have de advantage of any other Russian men, you are new and different. Give her confidence about you.
  6. Russian women like that men take the first steps, so if you are not confident, you need to practice to talk to more women.
  7. Usually they don’t like that you have the monopoly of the conversation. Usually I see this problem with guys who are very selfish and sometimes because many guys are very nervous to talk to some beautiful lady. In both cases you need to change your attitude, but for the second kind of guys, relax, she is only a girl, nothing else.
  8. Don’t try to impress the girls in a wrong way. Maybe you can try to impress her talking about the money you have, that you know everything, that you are the perfect one and the others are stupid guys. In the end, if the girl has some sense, she will drop you. Be real and talk about you in real terms, talk about your bad things with a sense of humor and your good things.

Usually Russian women pay attention in very important things, but of course you can find girls that only pay attention in material things, or money or if you are handsome, you name it. I want to tell you, don’t worry about it, exist many beautiful woman in Russia and not all of them are good for you. Be selective.

Maybe, if you are interested we can talk about my bad experiences dealing with some women in Russia.

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